Befuddled
I just can't seem to get over the sudden change in Rover's behavior. It just shows you that actions speak louder than words and that my intuition about how he was acting and feeling in the past was not off base. I mean, now it is SOOO obvious how he feels. Wonder how long it will last? He keeps talking about getting old together and about his grandkids to come, etc.
Guess I should just enjoy it, stop questioning it, etc. But it's just weird, weird, weird.
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People change, sometimes gradually, sometimes temporarily, and sometimes radically and forever. Life is all about change. We may not detect anything new about our attitudes and behaviors from day to day, but when we think back to who we were 10 years ago, it becomes clear that we have--for better or worse--evolved.
Rover may have had a sudden, epiphantic shift in his perspective. It frequently happens. His apparent change of heart could be limited to you and the relationship, but a radical shift in one aspect of a person's life usually transforms the whole (like the Genesis Effect in Star Trek II). Does he act and talk differently around friends or relatives now? Has he changed the way he dresses, his hobbies and interests, his religious beliefs . . . anything besides his commitment to you?
If you're at the epicenter of his perspective shift, the Genesis Effect may not have spread to other areas of his life yet. What's important for you is simply this: do you trust the new Rover? If so, then let go and let him be the new person he's trying so hard to be. If not, then you owe it to yourself and to him to talk about your doubts. Better now than after you make a huge emotional investment.
Absolutely on the money, PB!! I concur completely & could not have said it better myself.
You have also changed, dear Morgan. Think about where you were several months ago, several years ago.
The Universe may be shifting for you & Rover.
Blessed be....
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