Always A Surprise

So after my lovely night by myself, I had a talk with Rover in the morning, or rather, he detected my distance and asked what the matter was. I told him quite simply I was tired of once again hearing about how his seeing me distracts him from and prevents him from accomplishing his life's tasks and goals. I told him I would not put up with it, and that my response would be to step back and withdraw. I told him how surprised I'd been how after our confrontation and his apology on this very issue late last week he would again make reference to my supposed interference in his life.

We left the conversation there because he was on his way to a meeting.

Several hours later he called me back to tell me this:

He once again was sorry for making me feel that I was in his way. He said he does not feel that way and that he does not want me to feel that way either. He admitted that he is spastic with his time and feels disorganized, and is sorry if he made me feel pressured by his sense of what amounts to panic about his own, self-imposed time constraints. He told me that he doesn't want to make me withdraw and that he wants to include me in his life, that he intends to include me in his life and that his plans for me are long term, not short term. He told me he would try harder and that he loves me and needs me and doesn't want to alienate me.

Sounds pretty good, doesn't it?

So I continue to give him "another chance," but remain skeptical, as always. Trusting him is still an issue for me. So I will continue to stand back a bit and watch. Because, as we all know, actions speak louder than words. And how I act, react, is just as important as how he acts. I don't know what my "plans" are for him. Right now, I don't have any, so. I'll just watch and wait until....