Will Wonders Never Cease

In my last, most recent blog, I described what I have learned from my most recent experiences (those which lead to the demise and failure of my marriage). I also posited what RacerEx and Rover had learned from same.

I figured Rover would have learned nothing while RacerEx would have learned a serious lesson.

I couldn't have been more wrong.

I called each of them this morning, first Rover and then RacerEx.

I haven't talked to Rover in some time, as we no longer see one another. He went back to his girlfriend after a long, drawn-out affair with me in which many I love yous were exchanged. Like I said, I called him this morning to talk. I asked him what he has learned from all of this, and his answer surprised me. He said he learned the value of people in his life, the value of loving someone. He said he learned the importance of treating the people you love well. And while he said he still thinks honesty, in many ways, is overrated, he learned the importance of being honest with respect to being open about who one is and what one is all about.

Pretty good, wouldn't you say?

Onto RacerEx. I called him and asked him the same question. His answer surprised me even more. He said he had no idea, that he hadn't given it any thought. I asked him if he had thought about any of it, if he spent any time analyzing what had happened, what he felt. He said he feels nothing and that he spends no time thinking about it; he just goes about his days. He asked me what I had learned, and I told him. He did not echo my thoughts but said he'd have to give it some thought.

I am a little disappointed in him.

I told him I thought he really should put his mind to it and start thinking about things, that without doing so, all that had gone on and all the choices he made to bring him to this point would be in vain.

Enough. I have to go replant my front yard.